Earlier this year, I discussed my biological daughter whom her mother and I gave up for adoption back in 2007, when she was two. She was very much not wanted, at least not by me, so when there was an opportunity to give her up without a requirement to pay child support, I jumped on it. Well, as it turns out, she may not have been ours to give away.
After two decades of purposefully refusing to look at pictures that the adoptive parents sent her mother, I accidentally looked at a recent picture and I am glad that I did. I wish I could post the photograph, but even though the photo was taken in front of a world-famous landmark somewhere else in the world, meaning that she has no reasonable expectation of privacy, I won’t.
I wish I could show you that picture of her, her biological mother and me, her biological father. Or at the very least, we were the biological parents of a child. This supposed biological daughter of ours looks nothing like either one of us. That got me to thinking: what if she wasn’t ours to begin with? It is highly possible that our true biological daughter was swapped out for this girl, let’s call her Amber.
Amber was within my sight for the first few minutes of her delivery. Then, she was rushed away for an hour or so because they were concerned about something and she was taken to the NICU. After that hour or so, a baby was given back to us. That’s a whole hour that I can’t account for. She was not in our custody at that time, meaning that there’s a strong possibility that she was switched at birth.
If I were to show you pictures of the three of us, I am confident that you would agree that there’s no possible way that she could be our biological daughter. Her mother insisted up and down that I was the biological father, and I cautiously believe her. But again, Amber doesn’t look anything like her biological mother.
I am surprised that during the adoption process, no one stopped to notice that she may not have been our daughter. That means that there’s a strong possibility that we gave up someone else’s baby for adoption and someone out there raised our true biological daughter.
I realize that this is a very serious accusation, so I won’t name the city or the hospital where she was born. But once I saw this recent picture, I demanded to see all of the others dating back to when she was two. At no time did she ever resemble me or her biological mother. To me, that says that someone else’s baby was adopted out and that we never had the right to sign her away like we did.
Given that this all happened over two decades ago, there is no way to remedy the situation, if in fact Amber is not our biological child. Amber might be walking around thinking that her biological parents are in Albany when in fact her true parents are elsewhere. That’s assuming that she even knows that she’s adopted.
I realize that this is a very serious accusation, and there’s no way to prove or disprove any of this. All I am saying is that she was out of our eyesight for an hour, so what I am suggesting might hold some validity.
Just imagine: someone out there potentially raised our true biological baby while Amber’s adoptive parents raised someone else’s kid. I find that to be hilarious beyond words!
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